What kinds of things do you feel comfortable or uncomfortable saying?
I’m a big fan of being on the receiving end, but sometimes I get a little uncomfortable. I had a partner who I know started believing what he was saying near the end of the relationship, and blurring those boundaries really messed with my head.
I’m a big fan of being told that I’m not intelligent - “dumb slut” etc - because I know that I am actually smarter than most of my sexual partners IRL but like to be a brainless fuck toy during the act.
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I’m a huge fan. My partner likes degradation crossed with praise. So slut or other insults used as pet names in praise or saying I’m so proud of them for how good they are at degrading/humiliating themself.
On my end I am a pleasure/service dom, and when they get more aroused as I get meaner or dip back and forth from a little embarassed to really turned on I am in heaven
Very much so, just as long as it’s something they desire and that arouses them 😈
I get the appeal, but it’s not really my thing. See also, age and familial play. Not my bag. But I’m not judging what consenting adults do being closed doors.
Closest I’ll come is wrist pinning. So first of all, consent is mandatory and I’m not into CNC or anything approaching it. But, when you’re topping in missionary as a male partner with a female partner (or a male partner at the right angle, I suppose — I don’t look up gay porn, but I have seen it done in yaoi anime, so I suppose it’s possible IRL), holding hands is a great way for support. Pinning their wrists gets you the same leverage, and it feels hot. It borders on CNC a bit, so I don’t do it often, but my wife digs it, so sometimes I break it out as a surprise.
I mean, pinning wrists seems very very far away from CNC, for me, thats very clearly consent without pretending that its not consentful. The right words during it might make it CNC but thats a world of difference.
I’d argue it’s on the spectrum. If your wrists are pinned down, you can’t push someone off. Like, it’s very very mild - my end of the spectrum is giving a guy a key and giving him permission to use me while I’m asleep - but it’s still playing with the idea of power and the ability to resist.
For me its as much on the spectrum as doing missionary because my partner also couldnt easily get me off of her but that doesnt mean that we are playing with Non-consent. But there is full consent and we are not pretending to do anything that doesnt have consent. But pinning wrists and being aggressive with it or saying something about the control that you have, that would be on the spectrum.
I think we just pin hands differently :D
Nope. For me, degradation is an absolute turn off.
What I do like is horny neediness though. Foreplay/teasing and turning my partner on to the point where she asks for/wants/begs/demands escalation.
I think this is pretty much it for me too. Other than that its much more about praising each other and being very open about how much we love the others body, so a lot of compliments
I like calling gf a slut and other names, choking her and we will both spit in each others mouth if that counts. She enjoys all of it and will say stuff to me sometimes to make me fuck her harder or slap me. Definitely all consensual and fun. I get what you mean about liking it because you know you are smarter. Used to dirty talk with ex about her needing and a bigger dick and liking my friends better that we had a threesome with and there’s nothing wrong with my size. I think a lot of people get off on that dynamic and that’s the joy of role playing like that.
I like being on the receiving end, to an extent. My favorite things to do and hear revolve around the idea of being just an object for my partner’s pleasure, some name calling (slut, bitch, 3-holed fucktoy), having to ask for permission to do things, and being teased for how horny I’m getting. I don’t like insults to my looks or value as a person, nor do I do any kind of public humiliation or exposure.
As for giving it…I can’t see myself in a dynamic where I’m expected to degrade and humiliate anyone on a regular basis. I could do it once in a while if my partner really wanted it, but I wouldn’t enjoy it.
My partner gets really into being physically dominated so I call them weak, short, small etc… I steer clear of anything I know they are actually insecure about. Like weight, intelligence or gender identity.
I enjoy it, but only after making it clear beforehand that nothing I’m about to say is true/real and that we can stop at any time if she wants. I want people I have sex with to feel comfortable and safe.
As for what I’ll actually say, the usual degradation stuff like
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calling her a cheap whore that should stop thinking and just suck cock. And that if she ever has any delusions about being anything more than a useless dumb slut, I will fuck it out of her and make her apologise :)
Hm I mean it is alot about what my partner finds ok and what is not against the law.
Humiliation for example is not necessarily verbal and can be very much physical too. Physical humiliation is often a lot more mood dependent than verbal humiliation.
Mostly I just dont like screaming at someone in a session because it agitats me which I dislike. For words the self I don’t rly have a no-go list.
For likes I kinda like fucktoy because it’s short and kinda easy to use.
What do you think of as physical humiliation? I think about things like being pissed or ejaculated on, outfits (eg, force femme), or body writing.
Well yeah but it can be a lot more like forced or unpleasant/awkward positions. Or being “manhandled” or better being made aware of being bodily inferior. Or having to wear stuff that reduces your body functions like Chasity cages/belts or beeing collared in public. That’s just from the top of my head like I said humiliation is pretty personal so what isn’t humiliating for one person can be very humiliating for someone else.
