What kinds of things do you feel comfortable or uncomfortable saying?
I’m a big fan of being on the receiving end, but sometimes I get a little uncomfortable. I had a partner who I know started believing what he was saying near the end of the relationship, and blurring those boundaries really messed with my head.
I’m a big fan of being told that I’m not intelligent - “dumb slut” etc - because I know that I am actually smarter than most of my sexual partners IRL but like to be a brainless fuck toy during the act.
For me its as much on the spectrum as doing missionary because my partner also couldnt easily get me off of her but that doesnt mean that we are playing with Non-consent. But there is full consent and we are not pretending to do anything that doesnt have consent. But pinning wrists and being aggressive with it or saying something about the control that you have, that would be on the spectrum.
I think we just pin hands differently :D