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A fellow writer? Good to meet you.

And, please, don’t. Keep writing what you enjoy. It makes things easier because you’re in a field where you are at ease. You are your first reader; of you don’t like it, it is meaningless.

On to your question.

Anything can be erotic if well written. I’m not into BDSM and yet the Story of O managed to make me finish the book in one sitting. Vulgarity and banal words are always a complete turn off. Being graphical is good, being to graphical veers into porn

Particular themes/motifs/fetishes I enjoy reading and writing, first and foremost, is plain romance. Just two people falling in love or starting from plain old lust and carrying things forward from there. But I need story, plot, background; sex for sex is a let down.

I also prefer strong minded, independent, female characters and stoic or a bit aloof male characters.

Fetishes per se, I enjoy outdoors sex, body worshipping (can go both ways), tit jobs, oral and masturbation (hand and foot). Non D/s chastity, for both genders. Pegging. Sex in the shower, by the pool or at the beach, either by the sea or a river or lake. And weirdly enough, writing on the skin. Not tattooes; writing with a brush or a pen.

And I stop here.

That sounds really fun.

Nothing against that.

It is a service and a profession like anyother and should be respected as any other.

The problem is that many see sex workers as less deserving of respect.

Years after my two failed experiences I met with a former school colleague and after a long night and a few drinks, reminiscing of what had happened in our lives up to that moment, I had the honour to be confided that she was an escort.

She was adamant on how she had been lucky and how so many girls she’d met throughout the years had had terrible fates, to depression, alcohol, drugs, etc. She enjoyed what she did, it had allowed her to reach things she otherwise would have never been able to, including a college education, in an area she was passionate about, in the school she had always wanted, but a slight mistep and she could have had the same fate as others.

This was a delight to read.

Heightened sensitivity, perhaps? Prolongued foreplay, while using one, does that to me. I enjoy it but it takes an extra degree of restraint to not finish before I really want to.

Since in numerology all numbers must be reduced to a single digit, then, 1+6=7, therefore, your lucky number is seven.

Self confidence is the ultimate sex-appeal for me. It’s about a woman being at ease and relaxed.

Once saw a woman dangle her shoe on the tip of her toes, while casually having a conversation with the people at the table. It wasn’t meant to be sexual but the way the woman was so casually yet so careful and focused on what she was doing was… enthralling.

I was tending the bar and over the course of two hours that woman tormented me, unknowingly. At some point I just came in my underwear.

More recently, at a supermarket, there was a woman just rifling through the shelves, pick this and that, checking the labels, smilling to herself. It was just so… enticing, how she was so focused yet so relaxed with what she was doing.

Pretty tame, for all accounts.

Funny how so many life changing discoveries are made by pure chance.

I’ve had involuntary electric stimulation in the course of a long series of physical therapy on my lower back. They warned me I could feel some unusual “side effects”. I didn’t orgasm. But it felt really good and left me with a serious erection that my partner had to “endure” with.

The hair brush handle has been a fixture in my imagination since I read a book in my teens where it was mentioned. I’ve even tried to write my own and it always feels… off. But it seems to sensual, so secretive. It is an everyday object, always in plain sight.

The shower head works. I’ve tried it and it can work even for guys.

Ask her out for a coffee. Rejection is a given but success only comes from trying.

I agree on that.

You made me research on cold branding and it can be very much permanent.

I spent the entirety of 2024 without a single orgasm. No masturbation nor sex. Teased myself often by using a cock cage, walking outside naked, etc. At some point something just broke inside me and my desire just went away. Even today I can easily go for weeks without an orgasm and no erections.

Makes sense. Thank you. It’s one of those situations getting such a fetish load on it that it becomes difficult to get credible information.

A good deal. If not, I can’t even get it up. Too many scenarios play in my mind.

If it is forced or being done to appease, if it a bad moment for them, etc.

Both are fun.

Fully naked is best for intimacy, for long, slow, calm encounters where all it matters being with the other person.

Clothes on, of any sort, brings playfulness to the moment. Panties pulled to the side, regardless if it is a lazy sunday morning in bed or a quickie where it definetely should not happen is about teasing and hurrying things.

If both enjoy it, everything is fun.