I think I’m at one extreme - the vast majority of people I’ve had sex with, I never saw their face or learned their name. Part of it is maybe that I’m mostly faceblind because I have had good conversations, made “friends” this way, but I have something paradoxical where I feel less interested in sex the more I like/am friends with someone. Not really in a “friend zone” sense, but in that sex for me is fundamentally about being a passive object for someone else to throw around and use to masturbate. I dont like participating in sex as a person, and getting railed by a stranger gets me to that passive headspace.

A good deal. If not, I can’t even get it up. Too many scenarios play in my mind.
If it is forced or being done to appease, if it a bad moment for them, etc.