man who needs therapy discovers he may need therapy
Then discovers he can’t afford therapy
Fake: anon got a gf
Gay: anon is broken and lonely because he doesn’t have a bfJoking aside, a lot of these feelings come from childhood problems, whether we understand the triggers or not. It sucks because stuff that happens then carries over for the rest of our lives and it gets progressively harder to fix the older you get. People like this are the symptoms of a not quite functional family. Such families are the symptom of a broken, diseased society.
Depression a motherfucker
Truly. Hopefully this post judges people towards treatment; people want you, they want you to be better, they want to share their love with you.
I have a friend who is depressed but I sadly feel like I can’t say or do anything to help, even his meds don’t seem to help much
As someone who has treatment-resistant depression: keep inviting your friend. Keep asking them for help when it makes sense to do so. Even if they cancel a lot or are quiet when they do show up. That’s helping a lot.
People need community.
The key to happiness is having zero expectations. Seeking it in others is probably one of the worst places to look.
The key to happiness is having zero expectations.
anon rediscovers stoicism
you gotta touch the butt that’s the trick
Anon has threat-sensitive anxiety.
The message is an unexpected intrusion, with right answers and wrong answers but it’s not clear which is which. “Morning beautiful! 😍 💕” Is insincere because anon doesnt feel that cheerful, and anon lacks confidence in his ability to be convincingly insincere, as well as feeling like a fraud for having to pretend to be happy, AND is acutely reminded of his inability to be happy. “Morning” is muted and emotionless, bound to be inadequate, possibly signalling anger or discontent. "👍 " Is definitely a no-go, probably. Non-response is also just kicking the can down the road, eventually he has to respond, AND come up with an excuse why he took so long.
Anon has just woken up and immediately needs to deal with a scenario that his threat-model doesn’t cover, and where a wrong answer will have real-world consequences, possibly derailing his whole day and impacting his relationship over the longer term.
Anon is exhausted from the constant wargaming with all the minutiae of life.
I’m saving this for when someone sends me a friendly message and I don’t know how to respond. It will probably derail my relationship, but at least they know what happened.
