Forcing your self to feel feelings that you think “are right” is a good way to guilt trip yourself into insanity. The reality is feelings are oscillatory, sometimes you love someone to bits, sometimes you are impartial to them, sometimes you want a bit of space. If one is overweighing the others in a way that you think contradicts your proximity to this person then it is time to have an adult conversation. But you can’t judge your relation, yourself or the other person based on a single moment of feeling you had one morning.
The point is not to squish feelings that may look contradictory to your perceived relation with a person, the point is to finesse them, i.e live them without hurting the other person. ex, don’t act like a dick when you want a bit of space (also don’t be a dick when the other person does too).
Forcing your self to feel feelings that you think “are right” is a good way to guilt trip yourself into insanity. The reality is feelings are oscillatory, sometimes you love someone to bits, sometimes you are impartial to them, sometimes you want a bit of space. If one is overweighing the others in a way that you think contradicts your proximity to this person then it is time to have an adult conversation. But you can’t judge your relation, yourself or the other person based on a single moment of feeling you had one morning.
The point is not to squish feelings that may look contradictory to your perceived relation with a person, the point is to finesse them, i.e live them without hurting the other person. ex, don’t act like a dick when you want a bit of space (also don’t be a dick when the other person does too).
The point is to regulate and control your feelings. Not let them control you.