• CosmicTurtle0 [he/him]@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    1 day ago

    I’ve been poly for almost 5-6 years now and I do better than most, but nowhere near as well as women.

    I have some women friends who see several men a night.

    • funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works
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      21 hours ago

      I did well in my 20s with hookups but also I was a touring musician, comedian and actor who lived in major cities, a rakish waif and, at least at the time, I was kinda cute if I do say so myself.

      Married for 8 years now and although I am confident I have a lot to bring to a relationship should something unthinkable happen to my marriage but I am under no illusion that I would not do nearly as well in my mid 40s with a stable regular job, 20 extra lbs and an inch less hairline.

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        20 hours ago

        I’m mid 40s and have a stable job. Hair is full but a bit heavier since my 20s.

        What I’ve learned is that most women that I end up dating are usually looking for consistency and not being an asshole. Having a decent personality helps as well.

        I’m in competition with a lot of conservative men. If I can’t win against them, I should look inward.

    • paul@lemmy.org
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      23 hours ago

      It’s like that retort when people ask why being a slut is viewed negatively while being a stud isn’t, it’s easy to be a slut, it’s not easy to be a stud.