As a polyamorous individual, I whole-heartedly agree! Actual polyamory is often hard and requires a lot of attention and dedication.
I was open with every, single person involved about the fact I am this way, and have done my best at every step and with each new addition that none of them felt like a “side-piece.”
Real polyamory is made of much of the same stuff as real monogamy: hardcore honesty, vulnerability (especially when it’s hard), open, crystal clear communication, and most importantly, consent! Safe, sane, informed consent. If you haven’t put every, single goddamn card on the table, you’re not polyamorous, you’re a playboy.
So many dumdums trying to gaslight their partners into thinking that it’s not cheating, it’s an open relationship.
If you have to convince your partner, it’s not an open relationship, it’s a toxic one.
It’s really no wonder most marriages end up in divorce, when I see the quality of the relationships I wonder how they lasted more than two weeks.
As a polyamorous individual, I whole-heartedly agree! Actual polyamory is often hard and requires a lot of attention and dedication.
I was open with every, single person involved about the fact I am this way, and have done my best at every step and with each new addition that none of them felt like a “side-piece.”
Real polyamory is made of much of the same stuff as real monogamy: hardcore honesty, vulnerability (especially when it’s hard), open, crystal clear communication, and most importantly, consent! Safe, sane, informed consent. If you haven’t put every, single goddamn card on the table, you’re not polyamorous, you’re a playboy.