I noticed that outside Gonewild, people just don’t post or react. There’s a few goony comments, and half-assed teases, and that’s it.

You can’t get any engagement, not even a no. I noticed it’s everyone that gets no interaction.

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    I got the wirring/orientation issue for here. I guess you can interact with a woman on GoneWild, but only like to make generic “I’m very horny and you are very hot” comment.

    Much harder for niche things even if you are a woman.

    Having said that, how are things from the gay side over there? Having a lot of fun?

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      Well yeah women posting there mostly do it for validation I imagine 🤷 I’m not sure what type of interaction you’re expecting? Also I don’t think women would struggle to get attention on any sub to be fair, I just don’t see that happening? Also idk where is the gay side to be honest 🤭 I follow gonewild and some porn subs pretty much. But in general this “instance” or whatever it’s called, is pretty reserved in my experience. I haven’t really managed to connect with anyone here. I’ve had way more luck on discord and other sites where more women hang out.

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        Funny thing, there was a freak event on our server, but no one actually connected with anyone, folk just spammed porn.

        It’s what got me in this state.

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          You can’t really “force” an interaction like that through events especially with women. In my experience a lot of success is simply timing. If you talk to a woman when she’s in the mood, it can be almost surprising how easy things can get going. Also all the stuff you see about people saying it’s “weird” to slide into a girls dms, in my experience it’s the only thing that’s ever worked 🤭 women aren’t gonna be getting freaky with you in a group setting. You use that to feel them out and if they match your energy, you can def shoot your shot.

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            I’m scared enough by horror stories that I did say DM’s open instead. I know priorities! I let everyone know they could get a pic, one person said I can post, but no one would want it. So…ugh.

            It was generaly joke flirts mixed with actual porn, someone saying they are going to “goon” in SFW chat.

            The server was new and admins too new.

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              Honestly that sounds fine, joke flirts is how you check if you’re vibing with someone. The horror stories are valid, there are genuine creeps out there of course. But the people who take that advice to heart usually are the good eggs and not the creeps 🤷 the cold hard truth is that nine out of ten women(minimum) aren’t gonna make the first move. If someone is atleast joke flirting with you, you can def try to talk to them in private.

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                Some are friendly, In don’t want to get labeled needlessly.

                As a matter of fact, friends. All the better for me :p

                But I would not ruin a friendship by beeing a creepo.

                They rarely flirt much. Was very interesting though.

                I was in a situation where a woman politely declined pics (she I think is busy trying to get with someone).

                But gave me advice. That was very nice. She is very smart, and knows how to push buttons. I respect that.

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                  Exactly, any woman worth talking to will be able to just politely decline it. It’s your decision though. I’m just saying that saying DMs open personally got me 0 results 🤭 Also of course I’m not suggesting you to do it with “regular” friends. I have friends I am sexually open to and others I’m not 🤷 I think it makes sense.