I noticed that outside Gonewild, people just don’t post or react. There’s a few goony comments, and half-assed teases, and that’s it.

You can’t get any engagement, not even a no. I noticed it’s everyone that gets no interaction.

  • southsamurai@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    17·
    4 days ago

    If you’re okay with second or third hand discussion, read on. Otherwise, ignore me. I block all the image and video based nsfw communities (well, almost all, the ones that are art based I keep in). So, grains of salt.

    But, what I hear from people offline and online privately is that the fediverse is a disappointing place for spank banking. Too much junk, bad gifs, and hassles combined with spurts of spammish posts when a new community starts.

    So even people otherwise engaged on the fediverse just don’t bother you try and engage with lust here because it feels empty.

    Hell, part of the reason I block them as they show up is that so many are just random porn gifs and stolen pics. Which is fine for what it is, I guess, but certainly nothing to engage with. You know damn good and well when that’s the posts that most of the people posting just aren’t going to have a good conversation. The gone wild style communities should be different (and I’ve heard they are, though too damn many onlyfans models that aren’t there for the community, just the the free ad space it amounts to).

    I dunno, there’s also the way that lemmy in particular skews a little older and more settled. As people age up, the horny becomes less something to chat about and more something to actually participate in when one could be chatting. So you end up with a smaller segment of the user base that will do more than just vote and masturbate.

    I suspect part of that is also the reddit exodus. Reddit was getting spam driven in terms of adult content, outside very niche (and often quarantined) subs.

    In other words, people are still horny, but the fediverse just isn’t the place to actively pursue it.

    • Pm_us_kinky_comments@fedinsfw.appEnglish
      8·
      4 days ago

      We think you’re a little too absolute in your answer, though there’s some truth in there, the main thing is that just as any large internet place, you have to curate your feed so that it fits your interests. As you said, gonewild communities and other smaller niche communities are filled with OC, some sellers and some not, but most of it quality and good spirited ! As such, more so than on reddit, nsfw fediverse IS a place where one should ACTIVELY pursue nsfw horny engagement (if one wishes for it of course), because it can be found, but it won’t be served directly to you

    • De Lancre@lemmy.worldEnglish
      4·
      3 days ago

      I second this. Posted my femboy’ish ass in a dress and best comment that I got was about me looking like a Jojo villain. Also, there not a lot of people in general, so even less users who are interested in horny stuff to begin with.

    • RepressedLemmyUser@fedinsfw.appOPEnglish
      21·
      3 days ago

      Thank you, this does make sense, and is quite thoughtful and informative.

      Did you like designate yourself a sex guardian or something? I feel all you do is volunteer essays.

      Noble regardless.

      • southsamurai@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        2·
        3 days ago

        I had access to a shit ton of good books in my formative years, including a decent number of books on human sexuality. So it has been an interest ever since. I also enjoy sharing information (and have time to do so what with being unable to work).

        In this case, it’s just something I’ve had conversations about, rather than any deep research, but I figure most of the point of the fediverse is people communicating and sharing thoughts, so it made sense