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Cake day: March 24th, 2026

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  • Honestly? Enthusiastic consent. I can overlook physical features that might not be my favorite if she’s enthusiastic and direct about what she wants in bed.

    My wife is on the spectrum, so unfortunately while I know she is enthusiastically consenting in her own way, from an outside perspective it would seem like she’s not at all into it.

    Her version of enthusiastic consent is, “if I didn’t want to do it, I wouldn’t.” Which is fair, although it does cause me some anxiety. And yes, we’ve talked about it and she’s working on being more obvious about it.



  • I played a brass instrument for about a decade and still tongue along to guitar/drum solos, so my tongue is very strong with a lot of stamina.

    My wife loves it.

    I also have really long fingers (long enough I was tested for Marfan syndrome), and I played piano for 14 years, so they also have great dexterity and endurance.

    My wife also loves this.

    Which is a good thing because antidepressants mean my dick doesn’t follow my brain, so the usual plan is for me to get her off and hopefully my body will respond enough that I can get her off a second time.

    Although that’s kinda a super power because I’m pretty well endowed (I’m a grower and nearly average size soft), and my wife has Endo, so if I’m pushing rope I’m less likely to cause her pain.