cautious_cabbage

At school? A good friend’s girlfriend. We were all in an orchestra together - always struck a chord with each other but, alas, taken. There were a couple of these, two of them are married now, so it’s funny to look back at that - there’s sometimes a “what if” thought but I just enjoy those for what they are as notes from a point in time.

There were a few others who were unobtainable because I was a sheepish and awkward (and religious) young man; a tall redhead south African, a girl from my religious studies class, etc. etc. but that’s just being flush with hormones and was certainly just a one-sided crush.

Since then there have been plenty - a girl I interned with after university would have been up for pretty much anything I suspect but at the time I wasn’t single. I got.dumoed shortly after so I genuinely regret not seeing where it could have gone.

As an adult? A few colleagues have stirred things in me but I don’t put anything into them as far as “expectations” go, and just enjoy the tension without putting anything on it. The best things in life exist in shades of gray, and I’m certainly not getting involved in anyone I work with, or is unavailable.

As an additional “not a stripper but…” perspective: a friend of mine started their journey into sex work as a stripper, then moved into escorting “after” that - there was definitely overlap.

They now work with ludicrously rich clients and own a house in their city and work far fewer hours than I do, so I can also say that the responsible ones who have marketed themselves to the right clientele male absolute bank.