Malcolm, since it’s in the middle.

You articulated it perfectly. Partnership is collaborative. Our mindset is that we’re on the same team. We help each other to keep harmony so neither is overburdened. I’ll pass on that motherhood martyrdom bs, no thanks. This is a marathon, not a sprint. I value my partnership.

I appreciate your comment @Hacksaw@lemmy.ca

Kinda rage bait. I’m a newish mom and verbalize when struggling. If he’s doesn’t know how to help, I direct him. I had to get comfortable with the fact that he would help in his own way and to not steamroll him as a parent just because I’m mom. But I ask if I need something; he’s not a mind reader or an asshole, he’s my partner.

I hope it gets better for anyone struggling like this. It’s tough.