I think we are all aware that it’s the taboo surrounding something that makes it enticing or appealing.
An example I always fall back onto is nudity in general. Most people view nudity as being erotic but talk with a nudist or naturist and nudity loses it’s entire taboo background and becomes just a natural state.
But nudity is low hanging fruit, in my opinion.
I could dispense with marital jealousy. Not fidelity, jealousy. Two people can be together, love each other, but they are not dead. They can still see people around them and notice if someone is attractive or not. It’s not necessary to act on it but it is completely unjustified to hold someone on a bad account just because they have eyes.
I laugh when my partner shows me a meme where a perfect male model is pictured. I’m completely unremarkable by contrast but she’s with me. That’s my win.
I would like to dispose of the idea that kinky people are freaks, abominations or a danger to society.
Society is way too quick to cast judgement on people whose sexual expression is atypical or different from the vanilla norm. To make matters worse, people seem happy to intentionally conflate consensual adult kinkiness with serious social problems (ie: suggesting people who do BDSM are violent, furries are into beastiality, ABDLs are pedophiles, etc.) because it allows them to justify their desire to hate and shame people who like something different.
And even though we’re talking about sex and not identity, I’d argue this is all part of the same logical continuum that has been, and is still being used, to justify fear and hate against LGBTQ+ people.
Every community is going to have a few bad apples, obviously. But outside of minor scene drama most of the people I’ve met in the kink space have been extremely nice, safe to be around, and much more consent-oriented than the average person.