Interested in the ways people enjoy reversing roles in bed. What it consists of obviously totally depends on what your go to dynamics and acts are.
It could be switching power dynamics or active and passive roles, it could be giving your partner a dose of something you ordinarily love, maybe dirty talk, a little humiliation, just being the boss.
Maybe it’s pinning their legs back and riding them Amazon style if you’re usually the one on your back getting fucked orgasm on all fours face down ass up? Maybe you get off on sometimes penetrating them if you’re the one being penetrated, maybe just a finger in their ass, maybe going the whole hog and fucking them with a strapon until they’re cumming like crazy?
I’m sure there are so many more permutations. I’d love to hear about them…
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As someone who’s primarily a sub, I like occasionally pinning my fiance and acting like the dom. I very quickly fall apart when we get to the “oh yeah? What are you gonna do to me? :3c” question, because im not actually all that good at coming up with ideas =w=
Grab their little bittles and give a significant, but not overly, firm squeeze… and don’t let go, while simultaneously staring them down, with a little evil grin on your face.
Or, learn some basic arm or wrist locks, but do be careful with those.
You don’t need a leash or handcuffs or even words, if you know how to just literally force someone into a compliance position… and if you understand literal mechanical/kinematic leverage, you don’t even need to be massively physically strong to do this.
But again… do be careful with those, probably actually properly train somewhere, in how to do them safely.
EDIT:
If you are primarily a sub… that means they’ll primarily be expecting a sub.
Use this to your advantage.
Think of the knife fighting in Dune.
… its the slow blade, the one you don’t expect or even notice… that can make the most devastating cut.
Oh I mean… the “holding them down” is the easy part, it’s everything else that comes after the initial teasing and role subversion that I fall apart at lol :3
(Also I’ve never watched/read dune, my knowledge of it is “let the spice flow” pain box, and the questionable looking worm buckets hah ^^)
Aha ok lol.
So basically, in Dune, there is a kind of personal forcefield… but it doesn’t work like your … i guess typical ‘magic shield’ idea of a forcefield in most fiction.
It only blocks things that are moving quickly, it acts as a kind of proportional counter to momentum, velocity, acceleration… not to size or mass or physical type of object.
So… the slow blade, the subtle blade, is either not at all or hardly negated by the forcefield, whereas quick or powerful strikes will almost always be automatically deflected.
But, energy is still transferred from a fast powerful strike… they still hurt, can topple you over, break a bone even.
Thus combat becomes essentially the 12D chess of what we maybe more intuitively understand as real world martial arts… the way the reflectors work adds basically an entirely new dimension to the concept of physicality.
Also of course, metaphorical interpretations of this kind of idea and thinking, are uh, profuse.
Now to the actual matter at hand…
Maybe try thinking of it like this, if you’ve already got the ‘compliance’ part decently working…
What would your typically more dominant partner do?
Maybe they’d just continue doing something basically to you that requires and thus demonstrates significant, obvious, physical dominance.
Or, maybe they prefer a more … mental kind of control… maybe they’d intentially edge you, then deny the final satisfaction… maybe they’d push you past your limit and make you actually unable to form a coherent thought.
… The role is reversed, the power is yours.
But what is power?
Is it merely the ability to excercise your own will?
If so, what … is your will? What affects or changes your will from one thing to another?
Or, is it the ability to deny the wills of others?
Perhaps both?
Perhaps something else? The ability to induce certain feelings, good or bad, within others? The ability to punish them for not acting as you want them to act?
Chew on those questions, within this context, and you may find some answers for yourself.
Sounds like the perfect reason for those dynamics to quickly flip again, and for them to teach you a lesson?!
That’s always a good direction for it to go :3. Usually it just ends up 2 people in a submissive mood trying to goad the other into taking charge haha
Cute!
I am a switch.
Sex that does not involve significant elements of this is relatively boring to me.
It should be a kind of playful, ongoing fight or competition, as to who is currently in charge of the situation… otherwise… do you even care?
That’s basically my perspective or style or orientation, whatever you’d call it.
Of course, you’d want clear boundaries of specific things that are on and off the table, either set beforehand, or just the both of you can concisely communicate ‘yes’ or ‘no’ regarding a particular thing… don’t want to do anything non consensual, rules and boundaries should be respected.
But I find that… while I can assume and perform in an array of various sexual roles, somewhere between adequately to quite well… myself or my partner being wholly rigid and stuck in one of them, for an entire session, is yeah, boring, to the point that I generally experience that as rude and disrespectful.
Well, I never got a partner, but from my human and AI erp I guess, I discovered the dominant role is actually quite fun!
I did a vore ERP with an AI, and was so annoyed, I took the pred role and teased the fuck out of that poor stack of bits.
Someone asked me to roleplay vore, I decided I want to be a giver, which translated to…being pred.
My partner and I switch back and forth between cuddly laughing sex and hard penetration, normally I take the lead but when shes trying to make me cum at the end she has me all in her control
We’re both switches, to a point where we couldn’t even say that there’s a reversal of roles because we both naturally like both kinds of roles. In our perception at least, this variety is crucial to enjoy great sex life on the long term, because it unlocks the most positions and play types :)
So in bed I’m [M] always in charge, but lately my wife and I have discovered that in our daily “play” she really likes to manhandle and feminize me. Reaches down my pants to grab my ass, spanks me, and now she has me wearing thongs so she can snap them and call them my “panties.”
I’ll switch from bottom to top on occasion but I am not a dominant person at all, and the only time I even have domineering thoughts, is if I am too angry to even want to have sex with the person (despite hate fucking them mentally).
