Day 2 of trying to breath life into this sub and get the chatter going. How honest would you say you are about your kinks and fetishes? Is there something you’d never share with another soul or are you as open as can be?
I don’t think I have a single kink or fetish I haven’t been able to share with at least one person in some way, and if I’ve ever been asked I’ve always been open, whether I feel ill be judged or not.
Let’s try and keep this a judgement freezone too, if at all possible :)
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Absolutist no! There are couple kinks that I won’t like to share, as conflicts with others, and so I want tell.
We have a clear distinction between kink positive friends and other people. The first group knows what we are into. Others don’t. There are two good friends of my girl that wouldn’t fall into the first group but they are still informed (to a degree at least).
In general, we like to take part in stuff like blindfolded gangbangs that might affect our professional life (if the wrong oeopeö, so we are taking a risk (by taking parts in such events), but try to minimize it by not talking too much about it.
Yeah, my wife and i are very open with each other about kinks and desires even and especially if we don’t share something. Sometimes it’s a thing the other person is willing to try, sometimes it’s not.
I’ve also been fairly insistent on checking if our close adult friends are interested in talking about sex or desire. An innocuous question here or there to gauge temperature, and drop it if it goes nowhere.
Between mutual friends and my online friends i think i have 5-10 people i could about various kinds of kink, fetish, or sex with pn a semi regular basis.
Other people’s desires are fascinating to me and i didn’t get any sex ed from home so i chat with friends.
It may be a bit weird of me to think, but I don’t think enough adults talk enough about it. I know there’s stigma and judgement to be worried about and that’s why we don’t, but I do think as grown ass adults we should be able to talk to each other about things like this. Maybe it’s my open mindness, and everyone’s different I suppose it’s just good to have people you can talk to about.
I’ve always kept everything about sexual matters to myself. In the last year though, at a friend’s wedding we were slightly intoxicated at some point, and a small group of us brought up ‘fetishes.’ We’ve always been touchy-feely with each other (and give lovely massages, one of the best after-effects of running cross country together is how free we are with those), but my friend was pretty accepting of it when I said I would be happy if the friend and friend’s spouse, AND the friend’s sibling and sibling’s spouse, all ran a train on me. It wasn’t ever in the cards, none of them were those sort of folks, but the friend didn’t suddenly stop wanting me to give a massage to any of those four when we gather for christmas and such, or even show disgust. I now have to rethink how close I’ve kept my kinks all this time >:(
