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I recommend the book The Myth of Normal by Gabor Mate for some possible insights.

I recommend loving kindness meditation, also known as “metta”. There is an old saying that 1 hour of metta for a troublesome person is worth 100 hours of other kinds of meditation. I have used it to help me work through and (mostly) get past my feelings for the troublesome people in my life, even including an alcoholic and abusive parent.

Metta for myself also helps me make peace with how I feel, the constant “on guard” mode, which I know helped me survive, but isn’t needed to that degree any longer. It makes sense that I am this way. It’s not always fun, but I’m also not broken.

There is so much more, but I offer you this as a place to start. I hope that others give you helpful ideas.

Peace.

Si quieres más, quieres más. That’s it. It doesn’t have to be complicated. “I want more. Are you prepared for more?” Yes or no. I encourage you to state your needs and ask them what they are willing to do.

Do you worry that you don’t deserve more? Do you worry that nobody else will want to be with you? These are normal concerns. You are young. There is only one way to find out. You have time to find someone else.

Peace.

French has verlan, a slang in which words are reversed in a similar way, so that we say them differently, but they mean the same thing. “louche” means “suspicious”, but is often said as “chelou”.

It’s not the same effect, but a similar structural pattern.

It’s not even always swapping syllables. Some people say “meuf” as slang for “femme”, even though the word has only one syllable.

I’m not a French speaker from birth, so I don’t know how common this slang is. I know we find it near Paris.

You can hear it in the TV series HPI, where the lead character uses it quite often and the show is set in Lille, which is about 200 km from Paris.

https://meta.wikimedia.org/wiki/Cunningham's_Law

Indeed. I could hear the song and I couldn’t place the date.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Birds_Do_It%2C_Bees_Do_It

Yes. This lies among the reasons I find it easier not to blame enterprises for their dysfunctions. The unsustained growth imperative of our economic systems makes the Gervais Principle behavior the path of least resistance. Indeed, the only way to stop it seems to come down to the heroism of one key influential person who chooses differently.

This also accounts for why I stopped trying to fix enterprises and instead focus on helping the well-meaning people who otherwise would need to fend for themselves.

The book The Responsibility Virus helped me a lot with this. Most people are over-responsible for the choices of others, specifically ones they can’t reasonably influence, anyway.