That’s interesting. Personally I never got into competetive online stuff (other than minecraft servers), and when i did play it with friends it was a bit mid, so i’m also a singleplayer-only guy.
It’s definitely true that those I’ve seen are ‘sportos’ (great word) but there do exist people who out the effort into keeoing an inclusive environment for it. E.g other singleplayer gamers would probably do that.
I think turning videogames into a social occasion helps people to manage it in healthy quantities, which is something I have struggled with.






I guess you need to think about why you feel you don’t belong in those places. Are the reasons contradictory, or are they both more similar than you think? Is it a question of who you surround yourself with (or whether you’re meeting people)?