Perhaps the cure to male loneliness is men stepping up for men. As a former lost boy myself, I certainly would have appreciated it.

Now I mentor the shit out of juniors in my professional life.

  • Digestive_Biscuit@feddit.uk
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    25 days ago

    My dad didn’t teach me anything like this. He did, though, hand me down used items like an electric razor because he got a new one. He was a giant prick, but I don’t think he was trying to be a shit dad, he just was! (And I’m gobsmacked how people do stuff like this without realising their consequences to other people). I now get to be the opposite now I’m a dad with a son.

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      Before we had the recent shift towards purposeful retraining of our own behaviours in popular culture, a lot of our parents were just working exclusively with what they were given, it’s how they were trained to behave.

      It’s tragic really. My own dad was mildly absent because his dad left when he was maybe 3. My mum beat my sister and I because that’s what her parents did to her.

      It doesn’t make it better, it doesn’t excuse it. For my part, it makes me realise how this stuff happens, and why it’s so important to examine your learned behaviours, and try your very hardest not to be those awful things that were forced on you.