FATHER. You do not choose your father. This is not her brother, sister, father or cousin, son or daughter. This is her husband. Who CHOOSE to be her family. Who chooses her every day. It’s bizarre to me you don’t think being married is support.
You said that silence is support, do you in fact agree it must be something else, if a father remaining silent is not supporting his child?
You don’t know what’s going through this man’s mind every day. You don’t know if he’s filed for divorce or wracked by indecision. You don’t know and don’t care, because to you he’s just the enemy, with no inner life or personhood at all, to be mocked and shamed for actions he didn’t take, for beliefs he may never have had, and for sexual preferences you think are fair game as long as they belong to someone you hate.
I’m not saying you have to go cuddle the guy for goodness’ sake.
I am judging a man by his actions. I do not have access to his inner thoughts. If he wants to be judged based on his ideas, he must live by them. I am not saying silence is support. I am saying choosing her as his wife every day is support.
But you don’t know that he “chooses her every day” because that choice is something that happens or does not happen inside his mind. There are people saying in this thread that they’re separated. How would that be “choosing” her for example?
His actions are not actions. They are inaction. He has not divorced her. He has not spoken out against her.
FATHER. You do not choose your father. This is not her brother, sister, father or cousin, son or daughter. This is her husband. Who CHOOSE to be her family. Who chooses her every day. It’s bizarre to me you don’t think being married is support.
You said that silence is support, do you in fact agree it must be something else, if a father remaining silent is not supporting his child?
You don’t know what’s going through this man’s mind every day. You don’t know if he’s filed for divorce or wracked by indecision. You don’t know and don’t care, because to you he’s just the enemy, with no inner life or personhood at all, to be mocked and shamed for actions he didn’t take, for beliefs he may never have had, and for sexual preferences you think are fair game as long as they belong to someone you hate.
I’m not saying you have to go cuddle the guy for goodness’ sake.
I am judging a man by his actions. I do not have access to his inner thoughts. If he wants to be judged based on his ideas, he must live by them. I am not saying silence is support. I am saying choosing her as his wife every day is support.
But you don’t know that he “chooses her every day” because that choice is something that happens or does not happen inside his mind. There are people saying in this thread that they’re separated. How would that be “choosing” her for example?
His actions are not actions. They are inaction. He has not divorced her. He has not spoken out against her.