30 something woman here, apparently I masturbate a lot compared to my friends.
I have to say “yeah once a week too” when they raise the subject ,when in fact it is multiple times a day. Husband would also do 2 times a day if he kept to his “normal” cadence. I know “whatever works for me” is right, but I’d like to compare to other people my age that aren’t my friends.

  • ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world
    17·
    3 days ago

    If it does not interfere with your life, then it’s not a problem.

    Might be a hot take, but:

    • Sex is completely normal and natural.
    • Most of the sex addiction discourse is astroturfed by christian fundamentalists.
    • Most of the sex addiction stories I’ve read so far is just people wishing their life back before they had those weird urges, that came at a time they’re way too immature for them mentally.
    • Unless you’re some variant of asexual, you will have sexual needs. They’re hardwired into you. Please them as long as
      • the way of pleasing them won’t harm you,
      • it doesn’t violate someone’s consent.
    • The “grindset” is toxic, people should work less than 40 hours/week by this point, not 100 hours. The problem isn’t too much time for sex but rather not enough time for it.
    • Poik@pawb.social
      5·
      3 days ago

      Do note: many asexuals also have sexual needs.

      Asexuality by default is the absence of physical attraction, but hormones pay a part in many other functions in the body.

      Also, because of the culture I’m in unwillingly (thanks puritans who founded this country), it feels really weird to have urges, but never want to have sex in any way.

      I believe a person without urges is refered to as alibidoist.

      This comment is less for you, and possibly for others like me who misinterpretted the words growing up and think they are somehow different enough to be alone when there are people with all sorts of experiences all over the spectrum.