i’ve had a sense that i’m different from some people in this regard, so i wanted to make a post about it

now, when i’m with someone, their pleasure is important to me. but it’s not something i’m deriving pleasure from, myself. call it professionalism. it’s important to me that they get theirs, because i want to be a good lover, i want them to have a good experience

in some sense, i’m sure, if i was railing someone and they were getting off super hard on it, i would probably be into that (not an experience i’ve had to date, here’s hoping); but i think that would probably still be, in large part, because i was railing them (and receiving pleasure for it, myself)

and like, i don’t mind doing things where i don’t get off. it happens or maybe isn’t convenient or whatever. i’m not a selfish lover

but, if i’m not getting off, i’m not getting off, y’know? i hear people talk about oral or whatever and they’re like “WOW it feels so good (to be giving)” and i just, don’t get it. it’s fine, it’s not bad! it’s just not like, crazy good

so. when you’re being intimate with someone, who’s pleasure are you really there for?

(i do miss sucking cock a bit, i suppose. but there’s a lot about it i don’t miss, too LOL)

  • freeusething@fedinsfw.appEnglish
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    1 month ago

    I’m very submissive, and pleasure for me is entirely about pleasing my partner. I don’t orgasm during partnered sex, and it’s not ever something I even want.

    The best sex for me is when I get into the headspace of feeling like I am an object that exists solely to provide men orgasms - when they are a little rough, when they are verbally degrading, etc. That “subspace” is very much like getting fucked up on a drug and it’s what I seek from sex. I hate receiving oral or when someone tries to play with me to attempt to give me an orgasm - I want to be a sex doll, not a person that can experience pleasure.