I’ve been doing research into a lot of these venues and I’m curious, but I’m not sure if they’re right for me. They seem quite intimidating, and perhaps seem like they’re not really for people who are newer to exploring kink, even the ones that say they’re open to a variety of experience levels. Of course, everyone there had to have a first time at one of these events, but I’m worried that if I went to one it would be like I was invading a space not meant for me.

(Of course, it goes without saying that I understand the importance of enthusiastic and ongoing consent and being able to set boundaries)

  • Sine Nomen@fedinsfw.appEnglish
    12·
    18 days ago

    Unless you are extroverted they can be a sad and lonely affair. Go with a friend you’re sexually active with.

    Much better to ease into are munches. Lets you see the people in a normal setting. Give it time, get to know people, make friends. When you then go to a club it’s more like going to a normal party.

      • sluttyWizard@fedinsfw.appEnglish
        3·
        18 days ago

        Munches are gatherings of kink friendly people that don’t typically include any sexual activity themselves. Some are educational, some are just get togethers for local enthusiasts, but they tend to be held in public venues like restaurants or cafes

  • Maxxus@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    3·
    18 days ago

    If they didn’t want you to be there, they wouldn’t have a public invitation. Most, for various reasons, are looking for new people to join the community. There are many groups who are closed and invite only, so I wouldn’t worry about intruding on an open invitation.

    I’ve personally been to two types. The first is the “House Party” type, where someone hosts at a residential home. I’ve found these to be a bit sketchy because they barely skirt business laws, by accepting required “donations”. And if they’re willing to skirt those laws, what else are they willing to compromise on. The size of the venue is limited so it’s a more casual setting and you’re likely to talk to everyone at least once.

    The other type are hosted are at commercial properties and are registered business. These tend to be way more organized and generally have communities that are better equipped to integrate new comers. They usually have staff members monitoring the spaces and will organize smaller clinics that focus on specific topics, like intro to kink and safety.