Do you have a favourite sexual memory that stands out amongst the rest for any reason?
I think mine would be at a wedding with my then partner, had a few drinks and slipped into back into the hotel room for a quickie. Maybe it was the way her dress was hiked up as she was bent over, the music we could hear (Red, Red Wine being played by a jazz band), the perfect amount of alcohol in our system.
Maybe all of the above, but it always sticks out and gets me going if I ever think of it.
Sex without some aspect of me submitting doesn’t make sense to me. I hate looking people in the eyes normally, the idea of having sex with someone face to face as equals is just ick. I am submissive. I enjoy when I am being fucked in a way which mostly conveys to me that my pleasure doesn’t matter and that my body is a tool; my task is to make sure the person fucking me has an enjoyable orgasm.
But I’m also still a human being, and there has to be a recognition of that - I do this because it feels really really good to be choked by a guy who is joking about how he’d keep going after I passed out - because we’ve done stuff together for a while and I know I’ll be fine tomorrow.
But I guess to your actual question - I don’t think I am capable of vanilla sex. I have to remind myself regularly that my more vanilla leaning partners will be weirded out if I kiss their feet and thank them for honoring me with their cum after they are done with me, and that avoiding that prioritizes their pleasure.
You really are a freeusething aren’t you. Fair play
See, I’m capable of both. I can do, and really enjoy, the freeuse, sex object, piece of furniture that gets fucked side of sex, but I also enjoy passionate, romantic sex too. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy one side a lot more than the other, but I like to have a little balance sometimes