It’s hard to be thoughtful about why you aren’t good at swimming while you are actively fighting to keep your head above water.

Welcome to the club. It sounds like you have a journey of learning and healing. I personally find some YouTube channels helpful you may want the check out:

https://youtube.com/@healthygamergg

https://youtube.com/@howtoadhd

I know it can be really hard. You will probably oscillate between “This is fine, I got this” and “This is impossible and it will never get better”. Just know your not alone in the experience and you are capable of improving things. It will take time and help, but you can do it.

I would make an FAQ. I think for getting tone it is important to know what things are hard facts, what things are more subjective preferences, and what’s things are “we had to make a choice between options with no clear ‘best’ option”.