First of all, I would spend some time being single and learning about yourself. Who are you as a person? What do you value? Second, sit down and make a list of all your uncrossable boundaries. This applies to every relationship you have, not just dating. For example: I won’t allow poeple in my life who hit dogs. I won’t allow people in my life who are rude to wait staff. Third, and most important of all, ask yourself what you bring to the table? Learn to recognize green flags in yourself and others. Be kind, be a helper, but remember your boundaries.

I highly recommended Pete Walkers book Complex PTSD From Surviving to Thriving. Along with What Everybody is Saying by Joe Navarro. These books will allow you to start fixing your “poeple picker.” So you can stop of cycle of being around the poeple who drag you down instead of biuld you up.

Best of luck!

My toaster oven just died. It was so old all the numbers rubbed off and we just ran it off vibes. Guests were like, how long to make toast? And I just told them turn it till it feels right. I’m going to miss that toaster oven, it was the best.