I checked my Pixelfed messages today and see this. I’ve literally no idea what the first half means, so I asked my daughter to translate the acronyms. No idea what “no disrespect” is conveying.

I never really thought of pixelfed as a place for spam or scammers. If the intent is genuine, then I’m even more perplexed by how they are choosing communicating. I’m not going to respond because it feels off, so yeah…

Perhaps I’m just showing my age?

  • dehyzer@piefed.socialEnglish
    3·
    6 days ago

    So if they don’t respond to your “do you have time to talk” initial message, then you just don’t invite them to the concert at all and never tell them about it?

    All to avoid just asking them up-front whether they want to go or not?

    That’s wild, I genuinely don’t understand how this is better in any way.

    Imo if the question is urgent, either call them or add something to the text like “tickets are going quick and I’m going to buy them ASAP, so if I don’t hear back by <insert time>, I’ll assume you’re out”

    • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@slrpnk.netEnglish
      21·
      6 days ago

      So if they don’t respond to your “do you have time to talk” initial message, then you just don’t invite them to the concert at all and never tell them about it?

      Yep, that’s right.

      All to avoid just asking them up-front whether they want to go or not?

      This is where I have to correct you. Not asking them straight out, and not mentioning it later if they don’t respond, are both is service of avoiding putting pressure on them.

      • dehyzer@piefed.socialEnglish
        3·
        6 days ago

        Can you explain the “pressure” part a bit more? It sounds like you’ve got a time-sensitive question, but rather than asking the question and getting a response (or not), you’re asking to ask a time-sensitive question and getting a response (or not). If you’re trying to avoid the pressure of a time-sensitive question, it doesn’t seem like this approach fixes that.

        Only thing I can see is that this approach prevents the situation where the recipient takes too long to respond but did actually want to go to the concert, forcing the sender to explain that it’s unfortunately too late, tickets have been purchased and they don’t have one. But it seems like clarity in the initial message is still the best way to give them a chance to respond promptly if they really do want to go.

        Who knows, maybe I have finally gotten too old to understand modern youth etiquette

      • puz@piefed.socialEnglish
        11·
        5 days ago

        […] , are both is service of avoiding putting pressure on them.

        All you’re avoiding is going to the concert with your friend.