If I’m at a cruising event that’s a great line.

If I’m at a mixer that’s coming off way too strong.

How hard can it be?

It’s like the epitome of a person who has decided that they can’t possibly be the problem.

You pretty much answered your own question. I suspect most people in that catagory are unwilling or incapable of the introspection necessary to realise they could achieve their desires, but they’ll need to improve themselves first.