• glimse@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    It’s so weird to draw weapons in response to that. Do you really always assume the absolute worst intent when someone asks open-ended questions? If so, it’s hard to feel bad for you. You are one of the worst kinds of coworkers to have.

    “Hey tocopherol, do anything fun this weekend?”

    “How I spend my weekends is none of your business and I’m offended that you even though asking was appropriate!”

    “Ok dude have fun sitting in your car at lunch”

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      4 days ago

      A professional interview in which personal questions are being asked inappropriately is not even close to friendly banter between co-workers.

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        4 days ago

        It’s the same type of person ready to pick a fight over any perceived transgression. They pick stupid fights with their managers and make it a worse place to work for everyone.

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      4 days ago

      What are you talking about? You’re the one assuming the worst and being weird by not respecting a simple request in an interview! You just told me you assume they are going to escalate minor inconveniences because they requested basic respect.

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        4 days ago

        Throwing a boilerplate legal defense in response to a question that’s most likely being asked casually is a total tone shift. No one’s going to think, “wow, this person really knows their rights!”

        It almost makes you sound guilty of something. Preemptively defensive when you haven’t been pressed in the slightest

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          4 days ago

          I didn’t assume it had to be stated like a legal disclaimer, whatever kind of response a person makes it’s good to match the interviewers tone. I agree with you that you don’t want to come off confrontational, I didn’t read it that way.

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            4 days ago

            But you’re replying in a comment chain that’s talking about phrasing it the way that was quoted.

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            4 days ago

            What kind of jobs have you applied for where the interview was an interrogation requiring you to be defensive? Every interview I have EVER had has been friendly, from field construction to corporate offices.

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              Corporate office in a factory, they were very old school in what to expect from a candidate

              But a couple of times I met other interviewers that made me feel like that, albeit to a less extent