• kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world
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    There’s a reason the whole “I hope this doesn’t awaken something in me,” joke exists. You don’t decide what you find attractive. You discover it. There’s no choice in the matter.

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      Well yeah but it is your choice whether to follow that desire. Like I really want to empty a bottle of Nutella into my mouth, but I am not actually going to do it.

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        Well not with that loser attitude. Man up and tell the beetus to get thee behind me. Take a silicone spatula with you so you can really get into the corners.

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        Of course you do. Someone can be attracted to unhealthy things and have to deal with that too. Like scat for example. They can can even be attracted to blatantly dangerous or immoral things, like necrophilia or pedophila. They should seek counseling to make sure they can control those urges.

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        That goes for pedophilia too. They don’t choose it. Doesn’t mean it should be acted upon when your attraction is inherently dangerous or immoral. They should seek counseling to try to prevent acting out their urges. Wouldn’t wish that on anyone.

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          I have to say i am very proud of all of you. Most of the time if pedophilia comes up, the common reaction is rage and vigilantism. Seeing so many of you saying that pedophiles didn’t choose to be this way and that they need therapy is kinda wholesome compared to the discussions i already had to endure.

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              I fully agree, but there are so many people out there conflating the two terms. Sexual abuse of children (and women) often has no connection to pedophilia at all - it’s awful people getting off on the power imbalance.